Like many, early in my career I was laser focused on completing my college education, involvement in department collateral assignments, participation in professional associations and seeking promotion. There were various irons in the fire and felt this would have a positive impact in my chosen vocation while raising a family. One day, my wife, Rosella who has been my biggest cheerleader throughout my career told me to look in the mirror. She asked “Do you think you are you looking at the best Husband and Dad that you can be right now? Initially, I was taken aback, annoyed and my feelings hurt as I tried to explain that everything trying to accomplish was for our family. After a brief period of reflection and soul searchingsoon realized and whole heartedly admitted to her and my children, she was absolutely correct. I had been soconsumed with my professional development, continued education and career I was neglecting family, leadership within my family and not being the best Husband and Dad. I still recall how that acknowledgment hit me with the proverbial “right between the eyes”.
Over a thirty-two-year profession, I looked in the mirror numerous times throughout my leadership journey and asked myself; Are you being the best person you can be; husband, parent, son, brother, friend, neighbor,police officer etc.?
Quite frankly, sometimes the answer was no, and knew I could improve. Oftentimes, it can very bechallenging to stay focused on professional goals while ignoring the most important items in life; faith, family,and well-being.
There is no reason law enforcement professionals, regardless of rank can evaluate oneself honestly both personally and professionally and if you do not like what you see in the mirror; you are looking at the one person that can make that change in your life.
Stay safe and stay well!